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41pR5XCta4L__BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-click,TopRight,35,-76_AA300_SH20_OU01_The Kindle Edition to my book, “A Widow’s Pursuit” is now available on Amazon. Purchase it, if not for yourself, maybe for someone going through grief who needs to know it’s OK to feel crazy for awhile!!!

As a “Thank you”, if you read my book, and feel it’s a good read for others, please write a review on Amazon. Once it appears, let me know and until the end of September, 2018, I will be happy to send you a signed hard copy to share with others!

Email me at: cindyspursuits@yahoo.com

 

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thZWAD5S3ADoes this sound familiar?????

I remember like it was yesterday that the last thing I wanted to do in Grief was to sleep…… this article was shared to me and I thought it may be helpful to share to others in grief who are having a hard time sleeping…..

 

 

SLEEP AND GRIEF…..
Amelia Willson
Grief is an essential human experience. We’ll all experience grief throughout our lives, some of us more than others.
Just as grief affects all of us, it also pervades all aspects of our lives. When we are grieving, our thoughts are consumed by our loss. Food doesn’t taste as good. We’re less motivated to do things we used to find fun. It takes everything just to keep going through the motions of daily life.
And it’s tough to sleep. When we experience grief, it’s common to experience newfound insomnia, or to feel exhausted even if you are getting sufficient sleep.

Read more…….at Tuck Sleep

A_Widow's_Pursuit_Cover_for_KindleSometimes it’s hard for me to remember just how painful life was when I first became a widow. In my book, “A Widow’s Pursuit: Finding Out There’s More to Life than Grief”, I spent a substantial amount of time grieving. I had to! There’s a time in life for everything.

Fortunately, I made sure that God led me through. I made it a habit to pray for every decision I had to make. When I felt his peace, I took that as a sign I was on the right path. When I didn’t feel his peace, I took that as a sign it was not his will and changed my path.

As my grief subsided, and my new life unfolded, God promised me joy and the blessings are still coming, 23 years later!!!

My 2 daughters, who were 6 and 7 at the time their Daddy passed, have grown into the 2 most beautiful women a mother and father could only imagine!

IMG_0550Jessica (the oldest) became a nurse and married Brandon, who have 2 children of their own, Caleb and Isabelle, with another on the way!!! (For anyone that knew Jessica or has read my book of all the challenges of raising her as a single parent, only God can take credit for the transformation in her life!)

 

IMG_0121Nicole (the youngest) obtained a communication degree and married Teigan, who have a daughter, Mila. Even though they live cross country, I know that God continues to watch over her and her family. That gives me comfort!

 

 

In 2009, I found love again and married Joseph. At one time, I didn’t think this would be possible, to love again. I have been blessed beyond belief.046

And now Joseph’s daughter, Emily (my step-daughter), will be getting married this year to Randy. God is good and answers prayers!Emily and Randy

There IS a time for GRIEF, however, there IS a time for CELEBRATION and JOY as well!!!

 

th[1]One way I coped through grief in my widowhood was traveling. When I see opportunities like this, I want to share this information with other widows/widowers or if you know someone who is….2019 BEREAVEMENT CRUISE through Journeys of Hope, Healing and Health.

Some info from the flyer they have sent out….

CruiseBereavement Cruise III
The Bereavement Cruise is set to sail March 3-10, 2019

Give yourself or someone you love A Gift of Understanding…

You are invited to join us on a Journey of Hope Healing & Health, LLC Bereavement Cruise III
Experiencing profound loss on any level presents a painful challenge, and many people are unprepared for the grieving process that follows. But a new “healing” concept, Seminars at Sea Program, led by Linda Findlay & Glen Lord hopes to give those who are suffering from grief the tools they need to better understand their pain and cope with their loss. The cruise offers a healing opportunity for anyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one, no matter how much time has passed.
The bereavement cruise will provide an opportunity for our guests to better understand their grief journey, receive compassionate support and enhance their coping skills. Our workshops and activities will take place on the days that we are out to sea. There will be plenty of time to relax, spend time with others and share meals with new friends and much more. Participants will also have time to explore off ship excursions. You choose how you spend your time with us.
The Bereavement Cruise is a powerful transformational journey at sea honoring and celebrating the lives of our lost loved ones. It is an opportunity to experience an inspiring continuation of healing that will be shared in a nurturing community of people who are or have been where you are in your grief journey-no matter how much time has passed.

For more information, please contact: Linda Findlay 315-725-6132
Visit: www.j3hhh.com
You can register for the cruise on the event website.

Financial picAn article written by Tamara Holmes helps widows find a way to build their credit.

A couple things included are:
A downloadable widow’s financial checklist
Financial resources for military, elderly, and widows with young children

Losing a spouse is one of the most traumatic experiences one can endure. If you are a widow, the emotional toll can be compounded by financial challenges. However, credit can be used strategically to help you get through the tough times and rebuild your life.
Each year, more than 700,000 women in the United States become widows, according to Widows Well, a service that strives to help widows make sound financial choices. For these women, the financial impact can be devastating. Read more….

This article also includes being aware of scams that target widows. Unfortunately, widows are a target for being taken advantage of financially. As if widows don’t have enough to be aware of already! Share resource with others to spread the word!

 

 

th[4]Everyone experiences grief at one time or another. The grief process is normal, but for some people, it turns into suicide.

What is GRIEF?  (Medicine.Net) The normal process of reacting to a loss. The loss may be physical (Death), social (Divorce) or occupational (Job). Emotional reactions include anger, guilt, anxiety, sadness & despair (depression).

However, when grief takes over it can turn into a clinical depression. Some people don’t have coping skills or support they need and don’t want to talk about it. There are treatment and resources that we all should be informed about.

Let me give you some facts: (WebMD) Clinical depression affects about 6.7% of US population over 18 years old. Depressed mood most of the day. Symptoms present for 2 weeks. Recurring thoughts of death/suicide. There is high risk of suicide with depression. Over 90% of people that die by suicide have clinical depression or another mental disorder.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention reports for every suicide, there are 25 attempts!

 

There are resources!!

  1. Grief Support Groups – Griefshare (Christian based program)
  2. Various support groups for specific illnesses (Cancer, Parkinson’s, MS, ALS, etc.)
  3. Caregiver support groups
  4. American Cancer Society has Programs & Services (Helps people with cancer & loved ones to understand cancer, mange their lives through treatment, recovery and find emotional support)
  5. Professional counselors, Psychologists and Psychiatrists

So we need to talk about grief more! When we know someone is grieving over a loss or other main event such as divorce or illness, we need to get the resources to the people before it’s too late! Let’s be more aware!!

2018 WIDOW’S RETREAT

widows journey 2018 retreatDo you have that need to get away? To find someone that understands the loss of a spouse like you do? It may be time to take that next step!

My widow friend, Ferree, will be a small group leader for this retreat in March. Visit her website, Widow’s Christian Place and pray if this fits into your New Year….

A weekend for women of any age who are WIDOWS
and at any point in their journey.

People say, “Isn’t it wonderful he’s with the Lord,” and you want to yell, “No! He should be here with me.”

Spend a weekend with other women who have lost their husbands to death. You will be with people who understand your journey. Come share your heart and your hurt and be encouraged as we remind ourselves that, hard as it is, our God is able. Learn from women who are where you are, women who have weathered grief and difficult times.

2018 Widow’s Journey Retreat Sign Up

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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