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The Godly Widow Confiding in the Widow's GodThis is a great way to meet other widows who understand the GRIEF that goes with widowhood! Please visit Ferree’s website “Widow’s Christian Place” for more information on the retreat at Sandy Cove Ministry Center in North East, Maryland.

Sandy Cove Ministries is putting on a retreat, stating that this is…..

“A weekend for women of any age who are WIDOWS and at any point in their journey.
People say, “Isn’t it wonderful he’s with the Lord,” and you want to yell, “No! He should be here with me.”
Spend a weekend with other women who have lost their husbands to death. You will be with people who understand your journey. Come share your heart and your hurt and be encouraged as we remind ourselves that, hard as it is, our God is able. Learn from women who are where you are, women who have weathered grief and difficult times.”

 

 

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If you or someone you know and love is struggling through grief this holiday season, there’s still time to order my book by Christmas! Watch the video here….

Order book here:  A Widow’s Pursuit – Finding Out There’s More to Life Than Grief

As a widow in shock, I initially clung to my faith and was filled with God’s peace. When the shock wore off, reality set in, and I was overwhelmed with unfamiliar feelings. I filled the void and numbed my pain with harmful behaviors. By neglecting my children, a consequence followed, jolting me to wake-up to my responsibilities.

I finally surrendered to God and asked for His forgiveness and help. As my faith grew and God led me through grief, my heart healed, I let go of the past and comfort came back into my life. Once I accepted my loss, I awakened to a new life of being a single mom and contemplated new dreams and goals. Struggles still persisted, but I was diligent to pray for guidance to follow God’s will for my family. With God’s grace, hope came back as I experienced more purpose and joy than I ever thought possible.

This is my memoir of being an irrational, 34 yr. old widow, with young children, and how I learned to pursue my faith to overcome grief. Consequently, I discovered an amazing life after my loss. By sharing my story, I hope to help other widows and those struggling through grief.

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Top 30 BlogsMy website, “A Widow’s Pursuit”, has been selected for the Top 30 Global Widow Blogs. Please share this with others who are widowed and need to know they are not alone.

These top 30 blogs are from other widows who want to share their grief journeys with others in widowhood to provide them hope.

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41pR5XCta4L__BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-click,TopRight,35,-76_AA300_SH20_OU01_The Kindle Edition to my book, “A Widow’s Pursuit” is now available on Amazon. Purchase it, if not for yourself, maybe for someone going through grief who needs to know it’s OK to feel crazy for awhile!!!

As a “Thank you”, if you read my book, and feel it’s a good read for others, please write a review on Amazon. Once it appears, let me know and until the end of September, 2018, I will be happy to send you a signed hard copy to share with others!

Email me at: cindyspursuits@yahoo.com

 

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What do we do when our life falls apart and we can’t put it back together the way it was? It’s as if we worked all weekend putting together a puzzle with 1000 pieces. We only have about 20 pieces to go when the dog runs through the family room chasing the cat, slams into the card table sending the puzzle pieces flying through the air. Pieces land everywhere; in the fish tank, in sis’s plate of food and glass of wine and even between couch cushions! We realize we’ll never be able to put the puzzle back together.

Isn’t that the way it goes in our lives sometimes?

It may be an earthquake, flood or tornado that scatters our material possessions all over the place. Or a divorce that scatters family members into several different states. Perhaps there’s an illness and an early, unexpected retirement surfaces. Or what about an accident that causes someone to become a paraplegic. They can no longer drive their dream car.

So now what??? First we must go through the grieving process and come to accept our loss. Maybe then, instead of seeing our glass half empty we can see it as our glass half filled.

When our material possessions are scattered from a natural disaster, we may find the sugar bowl and creamer set from our fine china that was intact. We might place it on the mantel or table as an even more cherished item. In a divorce, or death of a spouse, it may be establishing a better relationship with our children. In other life altering situations from illness or an accident, it may be giving up a career and going back to school for more education to pursue another passion.

For the paraplegic who had to give up his job, perhaps with a settlement, he’s able to pursue a passion for painting and become an artist. Having the funds to travel the world and paint the most amazing paintings. These are goals to give us hope. It’s finding a new path in life and viewing new scenery along the way.

So like putting a puzzle together, we have to put a plan together….

For some, we may need a life coach to get us started or to guide us through the process. It’s a matter of making goals and breaking it down into one step at a time and “To Do Lists”.

In a divorce or family death, a goal may be getting counseling for the children. What would be the first step? From experience, my first step was to research professional counselors. Step 2 was calling and setting up an appointment. The third step was taking my children to the appointment. Once we managed to get there, the counselor then had steps for us to meet our own goals.

I’m sure most of us have had a life detour at one time or another. As we made a new normal, it was like taking a different path on our journey and experiencing new scenery.

In my situation of becoming a widow, I had to give up my job. This led me to go back to college at the age of 37. You’re never too old for an education! I took an Anthropology course and traveled to the Yucatan in Mexico. I was able to climb the incredible Mayan Ruins and sleep on the Guatemala beach listening to the howling monkeys near by in the jungle.

This only enriched my life as I began putting my life back together with new pieces and making a new picture. So despite our life detours, we can always regain our hope in a new journey!

 

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I used to think people only grieved when a love one died. After my first husband died, I  learned more about grief. I realized people go through grief over many reasons. Perhaps if we know we’re going through grief, such as stages of depression or anger, we’ll realize there’s logic to why we feel the way we do. This short clip may bring more understanding to grief experiences from losses we may never have thought about…..

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