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a6d35804-7b97-4538-90e0-5ba63074b195[1]My church put together five simple concepts they felt were important about making New Year’s Resolutions. So they wanted to remind us of those:
1) Keep it Simple
2) Include others
3) Celebrate Accomplishments
4) Encourage Often
5) Focus on the Big Picture
Additionally, they sent an exercise that would be a great way to finish out 2017 and begin 2018: I filled it out and it was a great reflection from the year past and the year to come!





  1. Buying a new home
  2. Road-trip with my sister


  1. My parents moved to GA
  2. My daughter was OK after her accident
  3. Everyone in our family had good health last year


  1. I can’t do everything! God is still in control!


  1. I reconnected with several family members



  1. San Francisco- to see my new granddaughter in April
  2. Florida- to go to my friend’s son’s wedding
  3. To the Georgia mountains in the Fall


  1. Pursue my job as a Social Worker
  2. Pursue selling my book to help other widows


  1. Marketing my book by giving Speeches


  1. Meeting my new grandbaby
  2. My Step-daughter’s wedding


  1. Doing Grief presentations
  2. Sticking to more healthy eating
  3. Trying new recipes

This is my list so now it’s your turn!



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OrnamentA special way to celebrate your loved one during Christmas is to personalize a Christmas ornament in his or her memory. Pick a photo that you like and personalize it. It’s a wonderful Christmas gift for family and friends!

I found this website that will guarantee Christmas delivery with Holiday Express Shipping by midnight tonight!!




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This year, Tate Publishing and Enterprises, who published my memoir, “A Widow’s Pursuit”, went out of business. I did some edits and it’s back on Amazon with an updated 2017 version.

Get your copy now…A Widow’s Pursuit

Or buy a copy for a friend or family member who is going through grief. Grief is not only about losing a spouse or loved one, but a devastating change in our lives where a loss occurs. How do we get through and find a new normal? In every situation, there’s one sure way to get through grief and find joy, love and happiness again. Read my story!!

To update my 2017 version, my baby, Nicole, and her husband Teigan, are expecting their first baby this coming March! So soon I’ll have 3 grandchildren!!!! Life goes on…..

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aseasonofgriefsmall[1]It’s coming….that dreaded holiday season…just around the corner. When someone you love dies, it seems like life around the holidays really hits hard. Sometimes, depression sets in and we’d like to hibernate for the next several months.

Think about going to a grief support group. I would suggest getting involved in a group with “GriefShare” before the holidays and then signing up for “A Season of Grief Daily Emails” for the following year in 2018. You’ll meet with others that will understand what you may be going through.

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Kids Camp offered through Crossroads Hospice Charitable Foundation

Do you know a child who is grieving due to a recent loss?   We still have openings for our Kid’s Camp sponsored by Crossroads Hospice Charitable Foundation!   Our camp is overseen by credentialed and licensed Clinical and Master’s level Social Worker and Psychology staff.  Our camp staff and volunteers are highly trained and specialize in grief and loss.    Kid’s Camp has designed fun, interactive activities for the children, age 6 to 12, to bond and share, play and gain tools to help them with their grief.

For some reason I couldn’t get the link to copy…so please go to the following website for more information. Sorry!


A place for grieving children to connect.






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What do we do when our life falls apart and we can’t put it back together the way it was? It’s as if we worked all weekend putting together a puzzle with 1000 pieces. We only have about 20 pieces to go when the dog runs through the family room chasing the cat, slams into the card table sending the puzzle pieces flying through the air. Pieces land everywhere; in the fish tank, in sis’s plate of food and glass of wine and even between couch cushions! We realize we’ll never be able to put the puzzle back together.

Isn’t that the way it goes in our lives sometimes?

It may be an earthquake, flood or tornado that scatters our material possessions all over the place. Or a divorce that scatters family members into several different states. Perhaps there’s an illness and an early, unexpected retirement surfaces. Or what about an accident that causes someone to become a paraplegic. They can no longer drive their dream car.

So now what??? First we must go through the grieving process and come to accept our loss. Maybe then, instead of seeing our glass half empty we can see it as our glass half filled.

When our material possessions are scattered from a natural disaster, we may find the sugar bowl and creamer set from our fine china that was intact. We might place it on the mantel or table as an even more cherished item. In a divorce, or death of a spouse, it may be establishing a better relationship with our children. In other life altering situations from illness or an accident, it may be giving up a career and going back to school for more education to pursue another passion.

For the paraplegic who had to give up his job, perhaps with a settlement, he’s able to pursue a passion for painting and become an artist. Having the funds to travel the world and paint the most amazing paintings. These are goals to give us hope. It’s finding a new path in life and viewing new scenery along the way.

So like putting a puzzle together, we have to put a plan together….

For some, we may need a life coach to get us started or to guide us through the process. It’s a matter of making goals and breaking it down into one step at a time and “To Do Lists”.

In a divorce or family death, a goal may be getting counseling for the children. What would be the first step? From experience, my first step was to research professional counselors. Step 2 was calling and setting up an appointment. The third step was taking my children to the appointment. Once we managed to get there, the counselor then had steps for us to meet our own goals.

I’m sure most of us have had a life detour at one time or another. As we made a new normal, it was like taking a different path on our journey and experiencing new scenery.

In my situation of becoming a widow, I had to give up my job. This led me to go back to college at the age of 37. You’re never too old for an education! I took an Anthropology course and traveled to the Yucatan in Mexico. I was able to climb the incredible Mayan Ruins and sleep on the Guatemala beach listening to the howling monkeys near by in the jungle.

This only enriched my life as I began putting my life back together with new pieces and making a new picture. So despite our life detours, we can always regain our hope in a new journey!


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Taken from a facebook friend, Mary Kate Cranston, who has a blog “Cry Laugh Heal”:

How do you deal with change? Here’s a new post about when life pushes us in a new direction. It sounds funny to say but change is definitely a constant of life. As David Bowie wrote in his classic hit song, Changes, you not only have to turn and face the strange but you also have to turn and face the strain because life is making you move on by rewriting your script.

On a morning walk in my neighborhood yesterday, I came upon a middle-aged man standing inside a huge moving van parked on the street. He was calmly…

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