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Widows need to find a new “Normal”. Everything changes in our daily life when a spouse dies. An article in a blog from “The Grief Recovery Method” states a very valid point… In order to successfully deal with grief, we must change our habits on how we deal with the emotional pain.

Sometimes it may just be finding a support group to discuss with other widows what works for them. There are support groups in churches that work through curriculum and videos.

Not only should a widow do it for herself, but when they have children who are going through their own grief (as I had), we must be a role model for them.

There are unhealthy habits we can get caught up in, and then there are healthy habits. Pray for the healthy ones to become part of your daily routine. You will reap the benefits by recovering from grief to move on!


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Taken from my social networking friend, JoAnne Funch’s website:


One day I decided to quit….
I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. ..
I wanted to quit my life.
I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.

‘God’, I asked, ‘Can you give me one good reason not to quit?’
His answer surprised me…
‘Look around’, He said. ‘Do you see the fern and the bamboo?’
‘Yes’, I replied.
‘When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds,
I took very good care of them.
I gave them light.
I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor.
Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo’, He said.

‘In year three, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.
But I would not quit.

In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed.
I would not quit.’ He said.

‘Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. ..

But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.
It had spent the five years growing roots.
Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.
‘I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.’

He asked me.
‘Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots’.

‘I would not quit on the bamboo.
I will never quit on you.’
‘Don’t compare yourself to others.’

He said.
‘The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern.
Yet they both make the forest beautiful.’
‘Your time will come’,

God said to me.
‘You will rise high’
‘How high should I rise?’  I asked.
‘How high will the bamboo rise?’ He asked in return.
‘As high as it can?’ I questioned.
He said,
‘Give me glory by rising as high as you can.’

I left the forest and brought back this story.
I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.

Never, Never, Never Give up.

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heartMy friend, Ferree’s, recent blog post on her website, is for widows who are going through grief and have to live through Valentine’s Day. If you’re dreading the day or looking for some ideas about what to do, Ferree, has shared some of her thoughts….

 Do you think you’ll want to mark Valentine’s Day this year? It’s a hard holiday to face alone! Let’s admit it can be a challenge, but there are some ways to deal with it. Keep reading for some ideas, and please add your own in the comments.  

First, you might be able to transform it by thinking ahead and planning to do something different. If you want to pretend the day doesn’t exist and not acknowledge it at all, that’s okay too. I often find that people deal with sorrow in two different ways: 

  • remember/memorialize it
  • or choose to leave it alone. It’s in the past, its been dealt with, and its time for the next chapter.

Depending on your background and personality, both of these methods can work. There’s a third way too—have a pity party, but that won’t get us anywhere.

If you’d like to memorialize the day or give yourself something to look forward to, here are a variety of things that might be meaningful for you: 

  • Visit the cemetary and leave a message of candy conversation hearts to melt into the snow
  • Tie a home-made Valentine to a helium balloon and let it fly away to heaven
  • Collect old Valentines and love letters and put them together in a decorative memory box keepsake.

Please stop by Ferree’s website for more of her ideas and other resources for widows:

Widow’s Christian Place

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MC900444925[1]It’s that time of year when many people are working on their New Year’s Resolutions. Perhaps you barely made it through the holidays and grief has worn you down. Very often, when people are grieving, it takes every bit of energy just to make it through a day, let alone a year!

With January in full swing, you may be wondering, “What now?” I’ve been there and I know how it feels. So I’ve come up with my Top 5 Resolutions that might be considered if you’re still grieving:

  1. Spiritual Health: Pray, Worship and/or join a Bible Study
  2. Physical Health: Exercise (Run, Walk and/or join a Gym)
  3. Healthy Eating: Low sugar, little alcohol and more Fruits / Veggies
  4. Rest: 6 to 8 hours of sleep every night & naps when needed
  5. Support groups: Retreat or Grief Support Group such as Griefshare (www.griefshare.org) Plug in your zip code and you can find the closest groups in your area

Consider these resolutions to help you work through your grief in a healthy way!

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Ever feel, no one really knows how you feel? Ever been to a widow’s retreat? Consider and pray about going to this one. You may find it to be a community to where you belong. My friend and blogger, Ferree, has all the information on her website, Widow’s Christian Place, to start planning for your spring retreat.

Treat Yourself to A Widows Retreat! Make It A Christmas Present for YOU!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to meet women who “get it” about widowhood? Who know by experience that the Lord will not leave you stranded, but also know the pain and the struggle? That’s what happens at a widows retreat. The best one to minister to a widow is another widow and that’s what will happen the weekend of March 3-5. Gayle Roper, author of “A Widow’s Journey” and many other wonderful books (see yesterday’s blog post) hosts this retreat. Wouldn’t you like to be in on this time of encouragement and strengthening? Start praying about going today, and sign up soon! Please email me as soon as you register so I can help you get to know some mutual friends a bit ahead of your stay. WCplace@gmail.com The information below is from the Sandy Cove Ministries website and newsletter. Sandy Cove Retreat Center is located near the town of North East, Maryland, “serenely situated between Boston and Philadelphia.” It’s beautiful!


Being a widow is to be in a very lonely place. People say, “Isn’t it wonderful he’s with the Lord,” and you want to yell, “No! He should be here with me.”

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We have a BIRTHDAY–and we have a day that we DIE. It’s the dash in-between that represent what we do with our life.

What will the DASH in your life represent? Perhaps time spent completing our purpose that God brought us into this world for?

My online friend Joanne Funch who has a website http://www.heartachetohealing.com shared a short video of a poem “The Dash”

As this year comes to an end, perhaps we can think about our future and if we’re working toward our goals.

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Cynthia A. Adams’ Book Signing Event

You are invited to attend a book signing for author Cynthia A. Adams:


Friday 10/28/16 – From 4 to 6 pm


240 North Highland Ave.
Suite H
Atlanta, GA 30307

(678) 705-4545

Please join Cindy for this special event

and invite a friend!

If you already have a copy of A Widow’s Pursuit,

buy one for a friend – this book makes a great gift!

We hope to see you there!

For more information, please email Cindy at: cindyspursuits@yahoo.com

Can’t make the event? Visit our online bookstore to get a copy!


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