My friend, Ferree’s, recent blog post on her website, is for widows who are going through grief and have to live through Valentine’s Day. If you’re dreading the day or looking for some ideas about what to do, Ferree, has shared some of her thoughts….
Do you think you’ll want to mark Valentine’s Day this year? It’s a hard holiday to face alone! Let’s admit it can be a challenge, but there are some ways to deal with it. Keep reading for some ideas, and please add your own in the comments.
First, you might be able to transform it by thinking ahead and planning to do something different. If you want to pretend the day doesn’t exist and not acknowledge it at all, that’s okay too. I often find that people deal with sorrow in two different ways:
- remember/memorialize it
- or choose to leave it alone. It’s in the past, its been dealt with, and its time for the next chapter.
Depending on your background and personality, both of these methods can work. There’s a third way too—have a pity party, but that won’t get us anywhere.
If you’d like to memorialize the day or give yourself something to look forward to, here are a variety of things that might be meaningful for you:
- Visit the cemetary and leave a message of candy conversation hearts to melt into the snow
- Tie a home-made Valentine to a helium balloon and let it fly away to heaven
- Collect old Valentines and love letters and put them together in a decorative memory box keepsake.
Please stop by Ferree’s website for more of her ideas and other resources for widows:
a widows pursuit 
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